I’ve heard the “Terrible Two’s” are nothing compared to the “Terrible Three’s,” and Bubba just turned three… so he must be in the “Terrible” sweet spot right now. Now don’t get me wrong, he’s a great kid most of the time, but when he gets mad, he definitely lets you (and everyone near you) know about it!
Bubba knows there will always be a consequence when he behaves badly, though. Most of the time, he gets a time out… but when he’s really misbehaving before bedtime, he gets one of his favorite things taken away – he loses his read aloud time.
I really hate it when he loses his read aloud time, because I enjoy reading to him just as much as he enjoys being read to… but just the threat of not reading a book before bed will usually cause him to start behaving again!
Part of me thinks I shouldn’t use this as a punishment (because I don’t want him to have any negative feelings associated with reading), but the other part of me can’t help but notice how effective it is.
If it’s so effective, can it really be that bad? I don’t do it often, but I still worry that it’s not be the best “punishment.”
What do you think? Let me know your thoughts!
Here’s a simple tip for the parents and grandparents of little ones around Bubba’s age who have trouble keeping their child from to turning pages too early or not wanting to sit for very long: try putting a different book in their hand.
It works wonders for Bubba… He will go from squirmy and fussy to quietly flipping pages in no time! Granted, he’s not looking at the book that I’m reading and people may wonder why I read to him at all if he’s not even looking at the book I’m reading, but there are many reasons!
First of all, when a kid starts school (whether it’s kindergarten or preschool), the teaching is mostly oral. The kids with the largest vocabularies (these are usually the ones who’ve heard the most words in their short lives) have a huge advantage because they’re able to understand most of what the teacher says. The kids who haven’t been read to very much (with smaller vocabularies) have a difficult time understand what’s going on in the classroom, and they’re more likely to fall further and further behind in school as time goes on!
Another reason is it’s still quality time spent with your child! Think about it… What are you and your child going to cherish more – the time you spend together silently/mindlessly watching TV shows or the time you spend together reading books in silly voices? I think the answer is obvious!
Probably the most important reason to read to your child (even when he/she may not be paying much attention) is because reading aloud to them will instill a desire to read more when he/she gets older.
Just because your child doesn’t sit still or look at the book you’re reading to him/her doesn’t mean you shouldn’t still read to them. Try putting another book in their hands and just keep on reading!
I’ve decided that I’m going to change the way I do the “Books Read” page on this blog… My wife recently introduced me the GoodReads app (and to www.goodreads.com/), so I’m going to start utilizing it to keep track of all the books we read.
If you’ve never seen or heard of the GoodReads app, you definitely need to check it out! The app makes it super easy to keep track of all the books you’ve read and want to read – All you need to do is scan the barcode of a book with your smart phone or tablet, and it finds the book, lets you rate it, lets you write a review, etc.
I think I’m going to reserve the “Books Read” page for listing books that Bubba and I find to be particularly outstanding or useful. This will save me a bunch of time, which means I’ll have more time to read to Bubba!